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Part 3! 20 Tips for Working from Home with Kids During the Summer! The 3 P’s – A 3 part series!

In part 1 of this 3 part series there were 6 tips all about planning your work! Click here to see Part 1: Planning: There is something to be said for a routine! In part 2 of this 3 part series you saw tips #7 through #13 Click here to see Part 2: Productivity: How to Make Work Time More Productive! And now for the grand finale!   Part 3! Priorities: Remember what’s Important!   Tip #14 – The schedule is important, but take a break if needed.  In part one we talked about creating a schedule and sticking to your plan.  We’ve all had the unexpected melt down or needed to make a last minute change in plans.  That doesn’t need to derail your entire day!  Handle issues before they become a huge deal.  We’re looking for balance NOT perfection.  Go with the flow.  Have multiple plans ready and be ready to make another one if needed.  I have learned to be on plan “A”, but have Plans B through M in my mind if needed.  If you are frustrated with your work… walk away and take a break.  If your child is having a hard time, take a break and be there.  Just keep trying and do your best!  For me, sometimes a 5 minute break for a warm cup of coffee is enough to keep me going!   Tip #15 -Let your kids learn some responsibility and independence!  Your kids can and WILL grow in this time!  As they get older give them responsibilities around the house.  Not only will it help take some of the load off of you they are also learning really important life skills!  We have a chore chart! (See below for a downloadable example) The chart varies for different times of year, but they have consistent chores to help around the house and are customized around their activities.  Do they complain?  Yep!  But I feel it is important!  It helps them to learn responsibility, commitment and teamwork.  They can also learn discipline and work ethic from watching you work from home!  My kids have seen me work with a migraine, with a wicked cold and even with the flu.  They watch me make and keep commitments, and they watch me work when I don’t feel like it.  Give them something to feel accomplished about, but remember you don’t have to hover and control them 100% of the time. I grew up in the 80’s and didn’t see my parents ALL DAY while I played outside!  I know this is a different time and age… but our kids need to learn to be ok by themselves.  Let them learn to entertain themselves and be ok with some quiet alone time!  Let them learn how to problem solve and figure it out without running to you as soon as something doesn’t go their way.  Do be tricked into the Guilt Trip!  I’ve heard it before…“ Your kids need you! How could you leave them to figure it out on their own?”  Trust me!  Your kids will be better if they learn to be independent.  They can learn to handle things on their own and will learn valuable life skills! [gview file=”http://innovativecoachingservices.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Example-Chore-Commission-Chart.xlsx”]   Tip #16 – Don’t forget to take care of YOU!  When you take care of YOUR needs you are filled up and in turn are able to care for others.  Be sure to make the time to eat right, get enough rest, fit exercise in and pamper yourself even if for only a few moments.  Make a list of things that make you happy.  Then schedule some in daily!  Find time to read, pray, meditate, fit in a shower, 30 minutes of exercise, plan your meals, plan girlfriend time, etc. You will feel energized and have more to give to your work and your family!   Tip # 17 – Don’t be superwoman when you don’t have to be.  Yes we are AWESOME!  But we can’t do it all – all the time!  Figure out what you are good at and more importantly what you are NOT good at!  Hire help to get common tasks done or outsource to get an important task done that you might not be all that “good” at! Consider hiring a cleaning service or someone to update your website for you.  Maybe a virtual assistant service like Toni’s Office Solutions could help free up your time!  Check out their services here!  The bottom line is, you will need help from time to time… don’t be afraid to ask for it!   Tip #18 – Don’t neglect your spouse!  The fastest way to get an un-supportive spouse is to alienate them!  You and your spouse should be a team!  Communication (and a lot of it) is needed.  You should have many conversations with your spouse.  Dream together, plan together, pray together, hope together, and from time to time even cry together.  Know your boundaries & each other’s expectations.  When does your spouse need attention?  What chores can be shared? What makes them feel loved… and more importantly what doesn’t!  Talk about what you need and find out what your spouse needs.  Be willing to compromise.  Be sure to make them feel special, appreciated and loved.  I can make all the difference!

Dream Together - John Lennon

  Tip #19 – Have something to look forward to!  Good things come to those who wait (and work hard!).  What are you working for?  Take time to dream, goal set and have something to look forward to always!  When you are about to reach a goal – reset a new one immediately!  When you don’t have something to work toward you are much less productive.  We’ve had a great time being creative having something to look forward to.  Even if you don’t have a lot of money to spare… there is ALWAYS something you can find or plan to look forward to!  Go to a special park, cook a special recipe together, and find free community events to attend… the possibilities are endless.  When you DO have funds to spare… go for a special vacation or buy something for the house that everyone can enjoy!  Reward yourself for a job well done.  When you are working toward something it is much easier to continue when things don’t go as planned!  This is both true for YOU and for your kids!  Make a goal poster – Everyone!  Visually see what you are working for!  Have fun with it! Tip #20 – Focus on YOUR Priorities –not others!  People will always have an opinion and most are more than willing to share.  What you have to do is be true to you!  What is most important to YOU and YOUR family?  Don’t be afraid to change your mind, reset goals and refocus priorities.  You only have one life to live… live YOUR life how YOU want to!  Don’t be afraid to take time to really soul search what you really want and what is important to you.  Your priorities will change from time to time.  When I feel out of sorts it usually means I am in some sort of transition (or need to be!)  When you are true to you, life is SWEET!   Do you have any Priority tips to Share?  Post them in the Comments below!  I hope this series has been helpful to you!  Every family is different… find the combination that works for you!  Cheers to productivity!  Happy Summer!!!

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